Struggle with dating as a single mom


01-May-2017 18:03

So then could the key to locking down a good man be finding one who grew up in a home without a patriarch?Despite all the concern that divorce is breeding a culture of loveless sex and people who would rather die alone than marry the wrong person, is it actually creating wondermen, equally equipped to buy tampons at the store as they are to make sure you orgasm every time?As our moms had chivalrous gentleman who got them home before curfew and called after a date, we Millennials have the softboy.His more debaucherous friend, the fuckboy, has existed in different forms across generations — he's a man after sex and sex alone. He's sensitive, he spoons you while you sleep, and he listens to you. And he's part of a generation of men, now in their 20s, who grew up in a single-mom households after their parents — like half of all '80s couples — got divorced.They turn out to be better boyfriends and husbands."Sussman can't speak to whether or not that's an affectation specific to millennial men, but just based on divorce rates, there's a pretty big overlap.

"They have a lot of respect for their moms, and if it was a bad divorce, they don't want to be like their dads.

"I'm not a female so I obviously can't understand what women go through, but I try to be as respectful as possible about different things.

I've found that I enjoy hanging out with girls more now too."Kevin, 23, mirrored the same sentiment, and told me that watching his mom raise him and his brothers all by herself gave him a unique respect for not just single moms, but women.

So when he was having "girl problems," or wanted to talk about switching majors in college, he went to his mom.

"Being raised by a single-mom exposes you to all of the hardships women go through, from bosses nagging her to do tedious assignments to contractors clearly trying to overcharge," he said.

They're men who grew up with single moms, empathize with the struggles of femininity, are total feminist allies, but really cannot handle being told no, especially not in bed, especially not by a woman.



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